Don’t you sometimes just wish somebody would wave a magic wand and make it all be different? That’s what movies are for. Here’s a technique you can use to make it seem like somebody has been waving a magic wand in your life. I call it the indirect approach. It sometimes takes awhile, but it does eventually work.
First you have in mind what you want to have happen in your life. Then, you figure out to the best of your ability what steps you would need to take to make that desirable thing happen in your life. I can almost guarantee you that there will be 25 steps you’ll need to take that you haven’t thought of yet, but don’t worry about it. Anyway, you pick one of the steps and start working on it. Nothing seems to be happening. So, you abandon that step and do another one instead. Your enthusiasm has not yet flagged. You work on the next step for awhile and nothing seems to be happening. So, you abandon that one too and rock back on your heels considering. Maybe it wasn’t a good idea.
You forget about it.
Now here comes the very weird part of all of this. This is the part I’m still trying to figure out. Whatever it is that you were going after starts to happen anyway. Except, it is not exactly as easy as you thought it was going to be. It isn’t a straight line to getting what you want. Things, other things in your life need to change. Mostly, it’s about you changing. That’s really the only thing you’ve got control over anyway.
But, this is about focusing in on something really intently, the wanting, the desiring, the needing of whatever it is that you want to make happen and then letting go of it. Forgetting about it, but still somehow in the back of your mind having a faint glimmer of the original wish so that you begin to almost unconsciously chip away at that list of requirements you thought you would need to accomplish in order to get to wherever it was that you wanted to be going.
Here’s an interesting part about this too. Okay, so in the beginning you had a list of 18 things you figured you’d need to know or do in order to accomplish said thing. You started in on doing them, but in the doing of the first 2 items the next 16 didn’t need to be done exactly the way you’d lined them out on paper, they changed slightly.